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Monday, June 13, 2011

I Can't Make This Decision

I have a bit of a conundrum I need your help with, dear reader. I know that pregnant women all over the world are suffering from terrible fetal-maternal health, no skilled attendants to help delivery, are at risk for fistulas, and all kinds of deplorable conditions. So let's talk about my first world problems, OK?

My mother-in-law wants to buy me a glider for this baby. Generous, right? Of course.

But....


Gliders are ugly. They all look like bad, overstuffed 80s furniture. LOOK AT IT TAUNTING US WITH ITS DISGUSTING ROLLED ARMS. Ugly furniture gives me the creeps. And maybe the vurps. EWW.

I've thought about getting a glider and then recovering it--by myself of course because I am cheap, broke, and completely delusional about the amount of sewing projects I can get done in the next week or two.

So when MIL told me that my sister-in-law found an inexpensive glider at IKEA, I got a little excited. Something in my style? Modern-looking? Not cottage-y, sage-y, beige-y, hideous? I want that fictional glider. I couldn't find anything like a glider on their website. I drove to IKEA and scoured the floor, no glider.


I did find the Poang chair and Poang rocker, which both have an ottoman. Boy, are those chairs comfortable, at the right angle, and NOT UGLY. The chair bounces so there is a range of motion that could soothe a baby. The rocker is a rocker, and you understand how that works because you are an intelligent human being. What's more practical, a rocker, or a chair that can transition to a grown-up space?

Turns out my SIL got her glider at Target, not IKEA. Shoot. I'm back to looking at gliders.

Do I accept my MIL's offer for a glider and get one? Even though this is my last baby and a piece of ugly furniture I will hide? Will I really use a glider and am I insane for thinking that I can recover one before I have a baby? What color and brand of glider do I get? The budget can't afford a Dutailier. So I say, Thanks, but I really like this rocker at IKEA and could I get that?

I can't make this decision anymore. And someone make me a drink.




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45 comments:

Andy said...

Pregnant people can't have the kind of drink you need (and that I'd be able to make you).

Form follows function. Get the ugly, helpful chair.

That's Ms. Amy to You... said...

Poang, all the way. I had a glider & used it just a scant handful of times. Every time I looked at it, it made my stomach hurt because it was so ugly. Do you really want to spend your last, incredibly uncomfortable days pregnant on your knees trying to slipcover a glider? No, no you do not.

Be nice about telling her what you REALLY want.... and if she still buys you a glider, take it back & get what you want.

Kelly said...

Does her budget allow for something nice like this?

http://www.landofnod.com/adult-seating/kids-furniture/luca-glider--ottoman/f8039

I love their stuff and it would transition well into the future. Having a rocker is a good thing. I wish my MIL would have been that generous. I would play the "I want to get a rocker that we can use elsewhere in the home in the future"... that is totally a practical understandable response.

Kelly said...

PS Ikea stuff doesn't tend to last too long.

kadusey said...

Don't get a glider. Push for the rocker if you want. Or, you could get the glider, throw a blanket over it to cover the ugliness, and use it like that for the first many months of baby spit-up and randomly exploding diapers, and then recover it later. But if it's not comfortable, don't get it at all.

kirsten said...

have you tried both out? because while all my friends were buying gliders I discovered that they made me a little motion sick. rockers didn't, so i went with a classic wood rocker.

(i like the ikea one, too).

Adriel & Tierra Wakefield said...

We already owned a Poang chair before having our baby. I got a glider for the nursery and now use the Poang chair when I'm downstairs. It doesn't really "rock" but like you said it has some give. It is kind of difficult to get out of while holding a baby though. Maybe the rocking version is better in that department.

SWILUA said...

Since gliders are ugly anyway, I just got myself a big fat Lazy Boy. Much more comfortable when you fall asleep in the middle of the night with your baby attached to you.

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

I bought the expensive Dutailier for my last baby, and used it a ton the first 9 months....and now it is collecting dust. Get what you want, because this is your last baby!!

sara said...

I had a cute red wooden rocker for my first two babies that I was very proud of. Then my husband surprised me with a glider, two weeks before my twins were born (babies 3 and 4). As soon as I sat down in that thing, I died. I couldn't believe what I'd been missing out on. It became my holding-babies-spot every evening after the other kids were in bed. Once I didn't need it in the family room anymore, I moved it into the twins' room - out of sight - but still there to use when I have a now-7-yr-old twin having a nightmare.

Get the glider! Your body will thank you.

Jane of Seagull Fountain said...

I have strong feelings on this. The nursing chair is the single most important piece of baby paraphernalia, followed closely by the cheap loud fan.

With each of my kids (in different houses), I've gone to the DI (or Salvation Army, etc) and bought an old, small rocking comfy chair. They've all been gold-ish with rounded backs, deep cushioning and low arms. Wait, I'll twitter a picture of it to you. With one of them, my mom made a cover because it was un-cleanable (I've got an upholstery wand on my carpet steam cleaner) -- but I've also used a sheet in a pinch.

With my last kid, my husband heckled and heckled me about that ugly chair I got for 25 dollars. And two weeks after we brought it home, he was sitting in it so much that we bought another one. I've got one in my living room and one in my bedroom, and they are the best thing ever, and if we get tired of them someday, it'll be easy to chuck them.

Amen.

jennie w. said...

I got the fancy Dutalier with my first that I made a matching cover for. It was great but now I have this big white rocking chair that I don't have need for anymore. But it's too "nursery" looking to put anywhere in my house. So I would go the cheap chair route so you don't mind chucking it when you're done. Or get a chair that can go elsewhere in your house. I spent a lot more time nursing my babies on the sofa than in a rocking chair personally.

Michelle said...

We have a glider that was passed down from my aunt. It's not my favorite in the looks department by any means and not something I would choose typically, but it is heaven for middle of the night nursing. For me, it's under the category of function beats form in this case. We rocked Finn before bedtime until he was about two and a half and now baby #2 is due any day so it has been used well in our case.

Heather M said...

You request the IKEA chair. And, I made you a drink... but then I drank it! :)

MelancholySmile said...

Get what you really want! When you're 9 months pregnant, you're allowed to make your true wishes known.

I'm all for doing the most convenient, comfortable, low-stress thing when you're 'heavy with child.' So please don't spend your last week re-covering a glider!

annie (the annilygreen one) said...

why is no one talking about the fact that gliders are freaking DANGEROUS. have you ever seen kid fingers that have gotten smashed in the low-to-the-ground workings of those things? not good. we had the ikea chair, and i LOVED it. perfecta mount of give, not ugly, and the arm rests are the perfect height. i tried nursing once in my sil's puffy glider, and the arm rests were totally in my way...i had to hold the baby's head up super high, which was not comfortable at all.

Aim said...

Go with what ever is more comfortable for you, I personally don't like gliders. We got a hand me down rocker recliner that is super ugly, but super comfy. At first my husband said that we didn't want it because it was too ugly. Now it is several years later and broken, it has to be propped up against a wall or it will fall over backwards when sat in. It hides in our bedroom and my husband loves it and won't give it up.

Somebody really needs to design a recliner rocker that isn't ugly but comfortable and affordable! Good luck with the decision!

Barb @ getupandplay said...

Get what you want.

Here's a suggestion (along SWILUA's suggestion. And I've had the pleasure of sitting in her chair and it's very comfortable.)

http://www.babinskis.com/ItemDetail.aspx?id=17900

Amy Jones said...

Here's the deal. Nine-month pregnant women get all kinds of slack...tell her EXACTLY what you think about the glider vs. IKEA rocker and you can blame it on the hormones.

Better yet, have the hubby do it. It's exactly the sort of interference they are intended to handle, isn't it?

(Does that make me a wimp? To hide behind hormones or husband?)

Caroline said...

You say, thanks, but I'm not a glider sort of a girl. I would LOVE to have a rocker and PS, there's an awesome one at IKEA that is so my style.

AzĂșcar said...

Kelly, if that were in the budget, I wouldn't have this problem. Must be under 300.

Laura said...

First off, if you know the budget then you probably have an open enough situation to be able to tell them what you really want.

My personal preference for a nursing chair was a good old fashioned Lazy Boy, even with the fabric protection I think it was about $250 with tax.

I did see a couple of not traditional glider options at Babies R Us, http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4237338 (also available in Lichen) if you come across a 15% off coupon (which they come out with all the time) it puts it really close to your budget... Good luck :)

The redhead said...

I actually have the glider in the first picture. I won it in at a twitter party. Super comfy but I haven't really used it yet because I don't have a baby.

It's actually slightly more attractive than the Laz-y-boy sitting in my youngest's room.

I guess what I'm saying is I am unqualified to give you advice.

Anonymous said...

yes, get the chair! After you are done using it with all of the cushions, take the arm cushions off, take the back cushion off and replace it with a pretty long enough to support your back cushion from Ikea or elsewhere. Instant makeover after you are done needing the extra cushions. My kids are 12 and 9 and we all use the glider (in its refinished form). Make sure you get a good one (so it doesn't squeak) and get the kind of wood you like (dark or light or white). What a GREAT gift. I hear you on the aesthetics though. Congrats!!!

Rynell said...

Gliders make me a bit sea sick. Your boys might decide it's a great way to play pirates or dog sled races, though!

I used a comfortable rocking recliner. It is absolutely not my style, but functional, cushy and within my price range. I rock my toddler in it for story-time, etc. It resides in her room now.

Fezfactiry said...

Before baby #3 was born I thought, I have never had a glider with a baby, I should get one. So I looked. You are right - they are ugly. I searched and searched for one that was less ugly than the others. Turns out they only come UGLY or Ugly. It was at that point that I realized I had already succesfully nursed and loved two other babies with nothing more than an old rocking chair.

How about you? Did you already have a cozy, go-to nursing the baby spot before? Do you need a chair at all? If you do and if the Ikea one is cozy, I vote rocker.

JMadd said...

I hate gliders, too, but I would avoid the IKEA rocker. Once it is assembled, IKEA will not let you return it. I know this because my dad bought a rocker there and it turned out to be so cheap that he tried to return it. They would not take it back, but told him they would be willing to dispose of it for him. He said, "Let me make it easier for you," and bent the chair in half and threw it at the manager. So that is why I would not get the IKEA one.

Jean said...

I polled my mother and sisters before making this decision, went with the glider and have been glad I did. My mom nursed 10 babies in a rocking chair and she said, "You'll want something with padded arms."
She was right.

ali said...

I didn't read all of the comments, but from my experience-- get whatever will transition and make you the happiest in the long run even if that's a "thanks for the offer but I don't really want a glider." I think gliders are ugly too, and ours was a total waste of money because I could never bring myself to bring it out of the baby's room. We ended up giving it away. That Poang rocker is so cool...

AzĂșcar said...

I have an idea: Get a glider. In one year, sell the glider and get enough money to just buy a Poang chair.

Anonymous said...

I say "beggars cannot be choosers". O.k., I didn't say that, but if someone wants to get you something that you could tolerate, I'd say accept it.
In my opinion, Poang chairs are the ugliest of all IKEA chairs. I've been looking for chairs on Craigslist, and POANG chairs are everywhere. There's a reason people are getting rid of them. Never buy furniture at IKEA. Unless it's plastic. My Swedish friend says IKEA is Sweden's version of WalMart.
I have the ugliest rocker EVER. Blue and pink aztec print, but it's fabulous, and I'll never get rid of it. (I bought a slipcover) It was only $20 at the thrift store.

FoxyJ said...

I got a glider with my first baby, and I don't know if it's because I'm short or what, but I couldn't nurse in it without the arms getting in the way and knocking the baby in the head. I just nurse my babies on the couch.

I've also found that you can get nicer gliders or rocking chairs that are better quality on Craigslist or at DI.

Celeste said...

I always wondered at the marvelous marketing for gliders. as a pregnant person, i hated the discomfort of that ill designed chair. should have been a sign unto me when my husband was on his way to bring the thing home in his pick up that it flew out of the bed of the truck. he shoulda left it on the side of the road. i hated that thing. is that clear. it was uncomfortable. mother-in-law can get her own glider and use it when she babysits her newest jewel. mother's get first call on what they want to sit in with their new magnum opus. wake up. it's your life. not your ma-in-laws.

jeri said...

My husband picked the rocking chair for our first baby. It is large (to fit him comfortably too) and easy to get out of with a sleeping infant. While it is not stylish, (after 3 kids, it's not even nice-looking anymore) that has probably never crossed my mind in the middle of the night. I've put thousands of miles on the thing.

So I say go with whichever is more comfortable for both you AND your husband, since he'll be doing a fair bit of rocking as well. And if it's not totally beautiful, refurbish or sell it when baby is older.

Mrs. Potts said...

Get a glider. I found one for free on craigslist, as seen here: http://www.mrspottsthoughts.com/2010/07/sprucing.html
It's completely hideous but boy it is comfortable and I will sure be glad to have it when this baby comes. I think function trumps form in this case, and you can always replace it with something better down the road after you're no longer using it for nursing, etc.

More Caffiene, Please said...

Okay, I'm pro glider. I love mine (mine is actually the armchair looking one that I did recover in cuter fabric, but I wasn't pregnant when I took on that task)! Buy a cute, bright throw to hang over the back of it and then sell the thing when you're done having babies. You'll love the comfort - love it. And get the foot rest, too.

Anonymous said...

Just had a baby four weeks ago and we are loving our poang. Go with Not Ugly! (And not so expensive.)
Sonja

Tzipporah said...

I love my glider, and it's NOT ugly. Very clean modern lines. But we lucked out. And we bought the floor model.

herlittlefeet said...

In the old days, people had rockers. Get the rocker!

Eliza said...

Both gliders and Poang chairs are ALL over Craigslist for super cheap or even free, at least in the DC area. I got a leather Poang for $50 or so a few years ago and it is not the most attractive thing but it is functional in our basement office. I haven't tried nursing in it yet, but I just had a baby on Sunday and I'm sure once I am attempting stairs again I will try it!

All of that said...if I was at home, I nursed my babies in bed. Middle of the night, middle of the day, that's where I was most comfortable to nurse. Otherwise (like if we had visitors and it would be weird to get up and go in my room alone) I used the couch.

Gliders seem "meh" to me and so do Poangs. The big huge rocking La-Z-Boys are so, so comfy to nurse in though, even if they are hideous. Maybe get one of those and sell it when you're done.

Eliza said...

P.S. I've never seen a recovered glider, no matter the amount of Amy Butlerification, that didn't just look like a recovered glider. Recovering it won't change its shape. That is to say it doesn't seem worth the work to me!!

I'm sure whatever you choose will be great and look great.

flemings said...

I love my Poang chairs! They are incredibly comfortable and now have super cute fabric choices. We have had ours for 8 years and I have nursed 3 kids.

Erin O. said...

I have the Poang and it drives baby J wild. Not in a good way. The bouncing doesn't do it for him. My old-school wood rocker...the one my mom rocked me in, has been just the trick.

My folks have an awful la-Z-boy that was purchased in a pinch when my Dad had shoulder surgery and realized that he couldn't sleep lying down. The only color they had in stock was icky pink. That sucker is a DREAM to rock and nurse in but it is hands down the most horrifying piece of furniture I've ever seen. My folks hide it in their office.

Rynell said...

Have you seen the mid-century rocker at UrbanOutfitters?

Pretty nifty.

girlsmama said...

So I'm glad you go the glider. I have a Dutalier and have had it for 11 years! 4 darlings have been nourished and loved. My hubby and I both fit in it comfortably. I got a neck roll pillow thing that hangs from the back and could sleep perfectly in it. I now use it in my bedroom during the summer (I love to read in it and hide form my 4 darlings!) and in my classroom as the teacher chair during the school year. It rocks! Haha.