Alright, Hive Mind, I need your ideas and advice.
Six months ago I put the boys in one room and into what Proximo calls bunka-beds. It was several months before Miss Lulu would be born so it would give them plenty of time to adjust to sleeping in the same space.
They have not adjusted well.
It turns out that EG is an early bird. He needs his sleep. He would prefer to go to bed early and get up in the awful early morning hours. He's chipper and with it in the morning. He can even coherently do homework (sometimes faster than if he tries it at night.) No matter what time he goes to bed, he's up early and ready for school.
Proximo is a night owl. (Oh, now that's a shocker.) He invents one million reasons to leave his bed. There is always one more drink, one more hug, something he forgot to say, has trouble sleeping, ran out of sheep to count. He sneaks out of bed and will sit behind the family room door until his breathing gives him away. He will sleep in mornings, and if he stays up late, he'll absolutely sleep in. He's a bit of a grump on the bright side of dawn.
Now, these two have the same 8pm bedtime. EG is exhausted and on his last fumes by this time of night. Proximo is just getting started. Proximo is sometimes literally bouncing off the walls. He's chatty. He won't stop trying to engage EG in conversation. EG is frustrated and begging him to settle down.
Conversely, while Proximo would be fine if he stayed up and slept in, EG waking up and leaving the room often wakes him up. Then he's grumpy, fussy, tantrum-y for the rest of the day.
So EG is often heard yelling in frustration at his brother, who is giggling and hanging all over furniture like a monkey, long after bedtime. Sometimes EG will be able to fall asleep anyway. They will exhaust each other several hours later. I thought it would be better by now, six months into this mess.
Yes, we have a bedtime routine. No, they don't usually have any screen time two hours before bed. We finish homework, engage in hygienic cleaning activities, and read a book or two together. Yes, we've tried wearing Proximo out. Just tonight he literally ran across BYU campus, rolled up and down hills, and raced his brother. We eventually had to put Proximo to sleep in our room so EG could get to sleep in his. That can't be the answer, can it? We have three bedrooms, so the boys need to share.
What would you do? What have you done?
SAVE US HIVE MIND!