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Wednesday, December 07, 2011

Pep Talks

Tonight I stood up, shook out my limbs from their crunched angles, and said, "I need a pep talk!"
"OK," Said my Other Half, "About what?"

That was half the problem, the "About what" part of the request. A general pep talk? Do they make those? Some sort of plug-n-play Coach Taylor pep talk that unspecifically puts the wind underneath your wings? Go team? Take state? Yay college? How are your meds?

"I feel like I'm hanging on by the tips of my fingers," I said, putting my hands into the air in front of me and bending my knuckles in a fair, if unconscious, imitation of the Hang In There Kitty. "Everything: the house, the work, the baby, the parenting, the business, the paperwork, the end of year flexible spending account."
"The worst is behind you."
"Yes."
"You've totally got this."
"Yes."
"The baby is almost six months and you'll never have to do the hardest part again."
"And all this is worth it?"
"Of course! I couldn't do what I do without you."
"I keep telling Tiffany that this is the hardest it will ever be."
"Exactly."
"I wish I could sleep for a couple months."
"Well, let's not take it that far. No hibernating, please."

And then I immediately felt ungrateful. It's a silly spiral: when you start feeling overwhelmed until you see the trials of your friends, and then remember how taken care of you are, what amazing people surround you, and how wonderful life is (because you're in the world.)  It's like I'm being coddled and beaten at the same time. Two different kinds of eggs! To which I am allergic, even in similes!

The truth is that most of us are just hanging on by the tips of our fingers, knuckles bent under the pressure of keeping your entire self upright and functional. We're all being taken care of by the mercy of each other. Because you are strong in a way that I am not, and I am strong in a way that you need.

Here's your pep talk: You can do this. We all can. Here's an umbrella for the vale of tears; pass it on when you hit the sunshine. You can eat your feelings, read about it until your eyes fall out, make a doctor's appointment, ignore it, pray about it, rage about it, but you can do it.

So take a deep breath, and DO.






27 comments:

makealongstoryshort.net said...

Needed this a whole lot today. My babe is nearly four months and mostly he is a joy - it's the rest of it that drags on me. I wish I were better at lots of things. Thank you!

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

This is definitely the pep talk I needed. Thank you.

Mrs. Organic said...

Go team! This is perfect for a Wednesday (or every day, really), thank you.

Blue said...

We're all being taken care of by the mercy of each other. Because you are strong in a way that I am not, and I am strong in a way that you need.

This is beautiful. and I hope that last part is true, you know, about me being strong for others. Sometimes doesn't seem like it. But thank you this morning for the hopeful reminder! ♥

La Carter said...

Thanks for the pep talk, so very much needed, today and everyday.

Anonymous said...

I've been a lurker on this blog for a while and just wanted to thank you for this post. Yesterday was hard and I woke up emotionally exhausted... I needed this pep talk today. Thank you!

Brinestone said...

Bookmarking this to read on the days when I need that umbrella. Thanks!

(Hang in there. You can do it!)

Candybottomgirl said...

I'll take that umbrella now thank you very much. Brilliant girl with brilliant hair. What a lovely post.

A Few Tacos Shy... said...

Thank you <3

Hailey said...

Yep, yep, yep.

I shall keep hanging.

fijiangirl said...

just DO! enough said... well and I'll add, thank you!

Lauren said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm delurking today. :) "We're all being taken care of by the mercy of each other. Because you are strong in a way that I am not, and I am strong in a way that you need." Thank heaven for good friends!

Michelle said...

Thank you for your pep talk! Came in handy today. :D

Jen, RN said...

Great pep talk, All I can add to it is-Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose!!!

Carrot Jello said...

There is nothing a handful of valium can't help you conquer.

I'm kidding.


No I'm not.


Yes, yes I am.



Maybe.



Yes I am.

annie (the annilygreen one) said...

so lovely. though, i got to the end and thought about how this post is the type of post that should have renewed my dedication to my shop, but it just made me want to quit even more. is it ok to be really tired of failing? what if the thing that i DO is to stop doing so i don't have to hate myself so much all the time?

who needs therapy when you have blog comments!

Bebe McGooch said...

YES.

Jennifer B. said...

Well said.

Erica said...

You're so right. I don't know how many times I've thought, "If I can just get through X then everything will be better," rather than just making today better, because that's what needs to happen.

redtilehouse said...

delurking to say "thank you," Carina. You root for me, and I will root for you! I love the support of women, even those I do not know. :)

~Leslie

Amelia said...

Yes. And Amen.

Vern said...

Coach Taylor couldn't have said it any better, but I admit I imagined your lips twitching and pursing as you typed.

Middle-aged Momma said...

Best pep talk I've heard for awhile.
Thanks for this much inspired post.

natalie holbrook said...

I LOVE THIS

Sean and Steph said...

Wow I needed this right now!! Thank you!!

Anne-Marie said...

ahhh....thank you. Though it's not specifically holiday in theme, it is the best holiday post I've read this season. Reflects my mood eerily well. great pep talk.

Jenny said...

I have read this like three times this week already and it's been incredibly helpful. Thank you. Although I keep wanting to say 'I would love a pep talk from Coach Taylor' only I can't figure out how to make it come out sounding appropriate.