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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

The Radius

I have a thing.

I know, I know, I have a lot of things, but this one thing perplexes people. What can I say? I'm intentionally difficult (but you eat Hershey's, so we're even.)

I have a ten minute radius.

I don't like to drive outside of my ten minute radius. My home is the central point, and everything that I want to reach, be it groceries, movies, shopping, schools, or friends, needs to be within that ten minute radius. Why? Because I lack the patience for a larger radius. I have friends who live 30 minutes away. Ask them how many times I've been to their houses. My best friend moved 45 minutes away for all of 2008. I think I visited her twice, and only because it could be piggy-backed on other errands. My relatives suggested I move to Eagle Mountain, and I could barely hear them make the suggestion without collapsing into a pit of excruciating pain from just thinking about how long I'd have to drive every day just to get to a store.

A friend who lives in Spanish Fork, 25 minutes away, asked me to parties at her house on consecutive nights. I sighed the sigh of both the tween and the put-upon. "You want me to drive all the way down there? Two nights in a row?"
"Is it because it's South valley?" she immediately bristled.
"No, no, I don't care that you live in Spenish, it's just the drive."

I really have to feel it to drive more than 10 minutes to get to anywhere. I really feel my work, so the 20 minutes I drive to get to my job is mostly worth it. Mostly, because I still hate the drive, and will complain to just about anyone (and now the whole Internet) about my commute. My mother-in-law, veteran of Bay Area traffic, laughs in my face. I know, California, I know that 20 minutes is the golden commute time, but that doesn't mean I have to like it.

If I could, I'd go back to living in a city where I could use public transport and walk to everywhere I needed to go. The thing is, I have this husband who doesn't want to, and even I don't think that a 10 minute radius is worth contemplating divorce (usually.)

Do you have a radius or are the miles wide open? Am I the only one?

38 comments:

Camels East said...

Laughing my non-commuting bum off.
Brill, girl.

Funny you say that, as getting to D.C. or New York would be no prob if on a plane, but now that it's a DRIVE longer than two hours, I'm out.

I always thought people like that were coo-razy. Until I had kids. And a husband (reverse order).

La Yen said...

Just from growing up in So California, my radius is about 2 HOURS. I used to commute from Provo to West Jordan every day. And I felt like I was getting a steal of a job commute, compared to my pre-Utah life.

If I ever move back, I will be sure to make it into your radius, though.

Tiffany UnTwisted said...

Hey, you came 3 times (possibly)... I think the third was because Susie was driving though.

Kristina P. said...

I was just thinking about this this morning, on my freaking way out to Tooele, in a blizzard. I was highly bitter.

I too prefer about 10-15 miles, but I will drive for the people I love. Ahhhh.

Fig said...

Halfway through reading, I was all set to comment "I don't understand people who don't live where they work!"

But you're one of them. And your job rocks, so I'll give you a pass.

Seriously though, a voluntary commute will never make sense to me. And I have a ten-minute radius too. And I walk to work, and back, twice every day. And I love it.

Amy said...

I have a serious radius, but it's a 1 1/2 mile walking/rollerblading radius. Now that Trader Joe's just opened within my radius, I never have to drive again. My radius only applies to daily living, though. I happily drive the 40 minutes to the beach or to San Francisco at least once a month.

rookie cookie said...

Wide. Wide as the blue blue sky. I don't mind driving anywhere. Plus, that usually meas that my boys are strapped into their car seats and can't get into anything or get into trouble.

Sparks said...

My daily commute ranges from 30 minutes to two hours. One way. And I don't mind it. We live 20 minutes off the freeway, and if you want to go anywhere 'round here, you're going to need the freeway.

My personal doctor is 45 minutes away. Husband's work: 40 minutes. Yoga studio: 35 minutes. That and my job means I'm in the car all day driving from one office to another.

So many have it worse than I do, but I don't think that 35,000 miles a year on my car is anything to laugh at (unless derisively). Why don't I mind? Well, I also get in around 35 books a year on my iPod as well. Commuting well spent.

Waldo said...

Honestly, I love to drive. I commute 20 mins to work and 15 mins back (because of a brand-new freeway that is only open one way right now) and I really use that time to decompress from the job.

And road trips are my favorite. I would almost rather drive cross-country than fly. When my family lived in Japan, we commuted 2 hours one way to church every week. It was awesome.

just my $.02

JP said...

I live in California. I also have a 10 minute radius. Even in my commute to work. I didn't realize it was a serious condition until this very moment.

My sister lives in EM. And I will tell you that it is soul-crushing to drive all the way from CA to UT and finally get to Bangeter Hwy (however you spell it) and then realize you have to drive a BUNCH MORE MILES.

Stick with your current plant.

AzĂșcar said...

Paradoxically, Waldo, I love a road trip. The day-to-day drudgery of driving in my sucky car for time-wasting errands is, uhm, taxing.

Kim said...

Wow, reading this makes me feel really special that you were even willing to come up here!!! I can get anywhere I need to in Logan in 10 minutes. Although, I can understand your not wanting to be in the car for a long time. I get it ;)

Kim said...

I do this too! My radius is the distance from my home to work. Anything within that twenty minutes is great. Anything even remotely farther away is no good.

Anne-Marie said...

Nope.
Ten miles for me too.
Ask any of my friends.

MysticFish said...

I was so laughing at this post! In a good way! Until last year, most of my working years have been spent with a hour commute to work each way, and at least a 15 minute drive to a real store. I lived in Minnesota though for 3 years, and my tolerance for driving dwindled. I say this because my best friend had a 15 minute radius, and she rubbed off on me. Now I have a 20 minute commute each way, and I complain bitterly about having to drive 25 minutes each way to the barn, and I am really into my horse and I still complain!

craftyashley said...

I'm so glad it isn't just me! Everything I "need" is less than 15 mins. away- anything beyond that is officially a "trip" and I have to prepare accordingly. I never see anyone who lives outside of this radius... unless they come to me.

FoxyJ said...

That is totally me too--which is why we live in central Orem. And my husband works from home. He's never really had a 'commute' and I've tried to avoid it too. We even spent three years in a crappy apartment because it was across the street from his job.

Sadly all our family members live farther away than my radius, and my MIL doesn't drive, so we end up driving long distances more than I'd like to. Thankfully we can walk to church and walk my daughter to school, and Target/Costco/mall/most everything else is within a five or ten-minute drive.

Also, even though I generally hate driving I love road trips. I'd rather go to Vegas than drive down to the Provo mall.

Kalli Ko said...

I complain about this to Paul all the time. Like how pissed I am that I live more than 10 min from Target now, or how the mall sucks up here and isn't worth driving for. If it was good, I'd drive, but it's not, so I complain. I miss my old house, where Target was but 5 minutes, the gym just a block, the gas station with the drive through window 2 minutes away. I had life so good back then...

Queen Scarlett said...

I have a testimony of this. Amen.

Used to live in the Bay Area... commute time 1-2 hours... it sucked.

Then we moved to the sac foothill area - I don't go more than 2-3 exits from where I live... because I can. Also... I don't deliver food to people further out of my radius... because I have limits. So if you want food... move into my neighborhood.

sarah k. said...

I do NOT eat Hershey's! I'm mortally wounded that you would even accuse me of such gustatory transgression.

Also, school=5 min walk,
library=7 min walk,
grocery=13 min walk or 3 min drive,
pharmacy=ditto,
hardware store=15 min walk
dentist=12 min walk
Trader Joe's=4 min drive (neener neener)
I can go on. There's great pleasure in living in a walking community.

Vanessa said...

This week we are goign to be in bay area traffic uh vey.

I WANT a radius, they are building a library, rec center, elem. school IN MY BACKYARD (kid you not), a Costco will be less than 5 mins away and Harmons 2 of them are less than 5 mins away. We soon are getting chickens and maybe a goat for milk.

And I will never ever drive out of my 5 min radius...

...and I will finally be in heaven.

-vanessa from inevergrewup.net

jennie w. said...

Love to drive. The further the better.

Unless kids are in the car. Then we drive nowhere.

Geo said...

I have something more along the lines of a ten-month radius. There's usually a month or so each winter when it's just too cold to coax me out, and a few weeks each summer when I want to die if I step into the heat, so I don't if I can help it. I'm not hung up on mileage, though I do typically favor what's within walking/biking distance.

Capree said...

I feel exactly the same way. 10 minute radius, fo sho!

MomBabe said...

I used to have a radius. Not anymore, not where I live. The roads make no sense, there's only 3 that go "through" town, and when I say "through" I mean they circle around everywhere without intersecting. It's SO DUMB.

I really miss parallel roads.sigh.

Likely said...

Do not move to Harford County Maryland.

I used to have a smaller radius when I lived in Provo.

I have learned to love the drives because really, it's gorgeous here. I have an hour radius now. An hour gets me to Baltimore, Philadelphia, Lancaster. My best friend out here lives 45 minutes away and we trade off and drive to eachother's houses weekly.

If I had a 10 minute radius I would have a grocery store, burger king and a gas station.

In the east though, if I upped my radius to three hours I could get to New York City or DC. That's the cool thing. But ask me how often we go to those places --- 2-3 times a year. shame on me. I know that I will kick myself later when we move.

db said...

Buy yourself a high performance luxury automobile. That will change everything.

TX Girl said...

My issue is more about location. I'm a city girl. I really dislike the burbs. Therefore I'm about 10 minutes from downtown. From there, everything is about 15 minutes. This is due in part, because all the non-neighborhood roads in my freaking town are 30 mph, including the gigantic 4 lane roads.

I do pay a slight price because of my finickiness...expensive housing.

Camille said...

In a perfect world, everything would be within walking distance or accessible with a Jazzy. Unfortunately, my world requires a 40 minute commute and I would drive even longer for friends. (desperate times...)

soybeanlover said...

Totally have a radius. Anywhere in a 10 minute walk is ok, further and it rarely sees my face. We're even switching wards because ours is outside of our radius(new building built closer to us and we are in a boundary no-mans land. The Stake President doesn't even know where we are supposed to be). The car radius is about the same amount of time because one child is very vocal about his great disdain for being strapped into a car seat.

b. said...

You know my sitch.
I was betching in my head about this very thing when I was making the 50 mile drive out of my driveway (only a slight exaggeration) to drive the 10 miles to the grocery store.

But....now that I'm out here in the sticks? I wouldn't trade it for anything (on most days).

Once. You've been 'cross my bridge, once.
I plan to host a party as soon as the basement is finish...I expect you to be there. Consider yourself, told.

b. said...

(holy crap...I think I just told THE BOSS what to do! Yay, me.)

AzĂșcar said...

SIGH.

Fine. FINE.

Petit Elefant said...

You are a radius snob, what is there to do? I'll just continue to make fun of you, and you can continue to make me regular brunch and allow my son to trash your house on a weekly basis. Even?

theworldaccordingtojennifer said...

I concur! And that is why I live where I live too! I have a 15 minute radius though. I can get to my most frequent destinations in around five minutes, but the kids' school is 15 minutes away. When we lived in Atlanta, same thing.

Love your blog! Glad I found it.

Hilary said...

Actually, I live in CA but I have the same thing. Everything's closer there than it is here...

TopHat said...

My radius is 5 minutes. Shameful, I know. I'm in Provo, but I won't go up to the mall in Orem because it's too far away.

esodhiambo said...

Mine is an hour--I'll do it without thinking about it. I'll do more if we had a chance to do potty breaks before and some snacks in the car. And passports, if we need to cross the border, and nothing is more fun than a road trip to Canada.